Confessions of a Crunchy Mama

April 20, 2010 19:45 by kelly

I’m a crunchy mom. Really, I am.  Wanna hear my credentials? Well, there’s the prenatal stuff: I did prenatal yoga, had a doula, and a midwife.  There’s the parenting stuff: I breastfed (even tandem nursed), coslept (didn’t even set up the crib with our second baby), and  babywore.  Our kids attend Montessori school, we practice gentle discipline, and we selectively vaccinate. There’s the green stuff: we recycle, use natural cleaning products, we're vegetarian, and nearly all the food in our house is organic.  Have you ever heard the song, “Hippies Lament” by Wally Pleasant?  There I am (ha, ha)!

 

The thing is, I have a confession to make. It’s something that separates me from crunchy mamas everywhere.  Are you ready? I didn’t cloth diaper my kids. Nope. In fact, with my first child, we used straight up Pampers Premium (I’m ducking as green and crunchy things are being thrown at the screen). I suppose I have excuses: I grew up helping my mom cloth diaper my sisters and remembered the folding, the pinning (the poking my fingers), the stinky diaper pails.  Cloth diapering seemed old-fashioned, and quite literally a pain. Plus, I run a business with my husband – so never was a full-time stay-at-home mom (I’ve done a combo of WorkAtHome/BringBabytoWork/WorkWithaNanny).  When I did a little research into cloth, it seemed like such a large up-front investment. And frankly, I’m horrible at laundry. It just didn’t seem like cloth diapering would work for me.

 

But, really? These are just excuses, not justifications. 

 

Because the thing is, all excuses aside, I should have cloth diapered.  I should’ve done my research. I should have realized that the growing pains associated with starting cloth, were likely to have been short-lived. I believe now that had we stuck it out and found a set of diapers that worked (we did try – very briefly – cloth diapering with a few Fuzzi Bunz on loan from a friend, and a bunch of gDiapers, which I later returned), we would have ended up saving some money in the long run (we used mostly Pampers premium & 7th Generation with our first child and solely 7th Generation disposables with our second child – in other words: expensive) particularly with reselling the used ones, we would potentially have avoided the seemingly endless succession of diaper rashes our daughter had (did you know that Pampers Premium diapers contain the additives: Petrolatum, Stearyl Alcohol, and Aloe Barbadensis Extract?), and maybe most importantly, though certainly most assuredly, by cloth diapering, we would have kept pounds and pounds of stinky non-biodegradable waste material out of landfills and out of the ground water. Waste materials, mind you, that will be there for hundreds of years.  Soiled diapers that will still be decomposing long after we and our conveniently-diapered children are no longer earthside. 

 

To put it plainly, the clean air council indicates (I’ve decided to cut & paste the exact text because the numbers are so startling that they need repeating): An average child will use between 8,000 -10,000 disposable diapers ($2,000 worth) before being potty trained. Each year, parents and babysitters dispose of about 18 billion of these items. In the United States alone these single-use items consume nearly 100,000 tons of plastic and 800,000 tons of tree pulp. We will pay an average of $350 million annually to deal with their disposal and, to top it off, these diapers will still be in the landfill 300 years from now. Americans throw away 570 diapers per second. That's 49 million diapers per day. [source: http://www.cleanair.org/Waste/wasteFacts.html]

Back to my words: 49 million diapers a day.  That’s disgusting. And it’s not fair to our children, nor to our children’s children’s children.

 

Why am I telling you this?  To assuage my guilt?  Maybe that’s a little of it.  But mostly, I think I’m confessing to let moms - crunchy or not - who might be leaning towards disposable diapering, know that while the potential “convenience” of disposable diapers is tempting, it just doesn’t compare to the inconvenience to our environment. The amount of trash you’ll leave behind (that I left behind) for those years of convenience just. isn’t. worth it.  Everything I’ve read and understood and seen firsthand from friends who made the environmentally-friendly choice, is that choosing to cloth diaper your babies is nearly as convenient as disposables (especially with the advent of AIO cloth diapers), less expensive than disposables, leaves far less of a carbon footprint (especially if you line dry), is eons “greener” than disposable diapering, and, means you don’t have to end up writing a crunchy confession post like me.

So do/did you cloth diaper? Or do/did you use disposables like me?  Confess... it just feels better.  :)


Comments

April 20. 2010 20:15

We used disposables for the first 5 months and for the last two months have used disposables as our night time diaper.. I feel awful about it though. I gave cloth a brief thought when I was pregnant but allowed my Grandma to talk me out of it instead of looking and researching for myself. She described rubber pants, prefolds, pins, etc. I plan to save our diapers from our first daughter for future children and if they are still in great shape, I can always sell them!

Rebecca

April 20. 2010 22:26

I really, really wanted to cloth diaper my first. It was a total. utter. failure. In hindsight, I should have explored more options than going with the diaper service because I was afraid of that big initial investment. I then blamed cloth diapers rather than the service, or type of diaper for my son's horrible reaction. We switched.

Number 2, I didn't even think much of it... Number 3 I was determined. Then I switched number 2 to cloth and have been using cloth with number 3 until now.

People need to realize the different options, fabrics, types, but not get too overwhelmed with everything out there. It really isn't that much more difficult than disposables.

Brenna

April 20. 2010 22:59

We used cloth (service) with our daughter but we used disposables at night because even with a double diaper the cloth wasn't cutting it (once she started sleeping through the night).  Of course that probably had something to do with giving her a whole 8 oz bottle of water before bed.  If I was going to have a second I would use aio's and wash my own and avoid all the folding and wrestling with the diaper cover.  

On another note, I think that there are very few of us crunchy moms that can claim crunchy perfection.  I think it's great to be honest about it so there can be real dialogue where moms aren't worried that they'll be judged for not being "crunchy enough."

Kristin

April 21. 2010 08:27

in my crunchy heyday I was a lover of cloth dipeys...I have a fabric addiction and the different prints and fabrics used had me smitten!  That was with baby #1.  With baby #2 I started out with disposies but the guilt was too much so we pulled out the cloth for the little princess.  Turned out little princess's skin preferred disposies.  I tried everything I could to fix the rash problem with the cloth but nothing worked.  So back to disposies we went despite my commitment to being greener.  

Angela

April 21. 2010 08:34

With my 1st, I used on disposables and really never even considered cloth.  At the time, I really wasn't that crunch either. With my 2nd, I stayed home and when starting to save $ for our family, that was when I learned to many things about going green and how to help our environment.  My husband laughs and says that I traded in my full time career and went full speed into going green!  Once I had the time to read lots of articles and do research, I was really upset at all that I did (and we all do on a daily basis) that is hurting our planet for our kids, their kids, and so on....
So when my 2nd was about 6 months old, I took the dive into cloth diapering.  And with my 3rd, I started cloth diapering as soon as we got home from the hospital.  Now, I will admit though, I do not cloth 100% of the time. I wish we did, but it just never happened.  My husband does not like changing a cloth diaper so when eh changes (which is not frequent at all - he is of course working most of the time - lol!) it is a disposable put on our girls. And when we travel I use disposables too.  As much as I would love to be one of those moms that use cloth 100% of the time, it just hasn't worked for us.  But I am very  happy with the # of the cloth diapers I've kept from teh landfills and the amoutn of chemicals I've kept off my girls' bums Smile  
But on a side note - I loved this post - b/c it was honest and I think sharing those things that we don't do as a crunchy mom's helps the rest of us not feel so guilty when we can't put 100% into everything - thanks!

Jackie @ 3 Little Ones

April 21. 2010 08:35

I'm quite crunchy, home birth & all, yet I started late on the cloth diapering/ only did it with our 4th and she's 19 months now and honestly I'm thinking about stopping. Hopefully she'll be going on the potty soon anyway, but I'm finding myself usin disposables here and there because the CDs are giving her a rash & then I have to change detergents and then the Velcro tabs on the Bum Genius suck so I only want to use our Fuzzi Bunz with snaps and so on and so on. Being this crunchy is work, yo.

Steph

Adventures In Babywearing

April 21. 2010 08:43

I used disposables with my first. I used disposables to start with my second and then switched to cloth diapers. I ended up switching him back to disposables because he kept getting rashes (turns out he was sensitive to something in the soap we used, even though it was a recommended soap for cloth diapers). With my third I started with disposables because we were using them for our second still and my husband didn't want our baby to have rashes like her brother did. I switched her into cloth diapers and changed what we washed them in. She has been rash free and doing great with them. At this point we'll be using cloth diapers with any and all future children. My husband and I both like them more than disposables.

Cassidy

April 21. 2010 22:43

I considered cloth, but 2 big things kept me from going there: 1) my husband was and is strongly opposed to it, refuses to deal with cloth diapers at all. 2) when our son was born we lived in Switzerland with a teensy washing machine and no dryer. So, for those first 7 months we used pampers.

Then we moved back to the US and hubby still wouldn't budge re: cloth, so instead we've been using gDiapers. I'm loving them, and find them a nice compromise. Unfortunately our single toilet can't handle flushing the inserts, but we do toss all the wet inserts in our backyard compost so that helps a lot towards reducing our trash output.

I plan to use gDiapers with our next kiddo. And now that they have cloth inserts for the pants, I might try to sneak some in past the hubby at some point... ; )

Marcy

April 29. 2010 18:35

I used Pampers with all 3 of mine. I had a friend who used cloth diapers and her house always smelled like baby crap. Her little containers just didn't contain it. And I did what was easier for me. I didn't breast feed either. So I guess I am not a crunchy momma. I didn't co-sleep or baby wear, and probably wouldn't even if I had anoother one. (Which I can't)

Peggy Brister

April 30. 2010 22:00

I have twins and we have cloth diapered the whole way (but I should admit they are adopted so this is as crunchy as I get)! I wish BumGenuis had made a snap diaper sooner, I too hate the velcro issue but we have never had a diaper rash issue! We started cloth diapering because we crunched the numbers and it seemed cheaper, it turned out to be so much cheaper and better for our environment! I am always asked about how bad it really is to which I answer not that bad, though today I would get the newest BumGenuis diapers. I have a friend who is considering it JUST because I did it and survived! We will cloth diaper all of our children but I have to admit I will be buying new diapers before our next child, the ones we have have been well loved and will be retired when potty training is complete. Do you have any ideas for what to do with the covers at that point?

Carissa

May 5. 2010 10:32

We are cloth-diaper folks. Bumgenius 3.0 to be exact (the names of the cloth diapers are enough to send some running in the opposite direction). Right now we have to use disposables due to diaper rash (you can' t use creams in conjunction with cloth). It's a lot of work, but I love knowing that we are helping out in our little-big way. I also love the cloth diaper booty on my little Eloise.

emily

June 13. 2010 09:04

First I am not crunchy and being green tends to be an accident.  I like it that way.  I natural garden and can for monetary reasons.

I also cloth diapered for the same reason.  With my daughter we used prefolds and cloth liners.  I had a 5 gal bucket in the laundry room with borax and water in it.  I changed her, rinsed and then the diaper went straight there.  The last chore of the day was dumping the diapers and water into washer, spinning in out and ran like normal.  Next morning hung out to dry.  She only had 3 diaper rashes all happening after vacation where she did wear disposibles.  We defraded cost by asking for diapering supplies for the baby shower.  We didn't ask for cribs, high chair, play pen, just diapering supplies.  With my son we made it to 9 months the same way.  But because he is made differently then sister we had a lot of problems with wetting.  So at home cloth, out disposible.  He stayed dry early at night so stopped using disposible at night early and both potty trained at around 3.

Really was difficult and hubby was helpful.  He didn't change them often, but became a pro at washing them.

Amy

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